We may have seen and heard stories where we are quite disappointed because the main character preferred the less desirable to the one we consider best. More often than not, people could hardly understand how the main character have overlooked the obvious while everyone around is admiring and cheering for the better one. Have you heard of love defined as, “love is like a rosary, full of mystery”? I guess this could be an explanation to the confusion. This is just one of the mysteries of the so-called love.
To those who have been in such situation perhaps understands how it is like that they end up with what many would consider the less desirable instead of the better one. How do you think others have derived the saying, “love is blind” when the person concern can make a rationale choice without compromise? Though there are people who contradicted the saying “love is blind” because according to them it is not love who is blind but the person. Nevertheless, regardless of whoever is blind or whatever blindness there may be it remains a mystery why it occurs. Others say that it is because some people are just stupid since the options are clear yet they still opted for the less desirable and that what makes them stupid. But is it really right to say that they are stupid?
While everyone else are making their judgments, the simple answer of those who are concern is… they are in love with the person they chose and no matter what others might have to say about their choice, it doesn’t matter to them because they are happy. So it’s not just making them blind but deaf as well – a manifestation of love’s power over the mind of a person. Perhaps we see it differently from our view but to those who are in the situation they strongly feel they made the right choice because they feel joy, it brightens their day knowing that they are still with the one they love most no matter what. It seems like they would rather be wrong and happy than right but feeling uncomfortable. To the extent they even just let themselves be hurt physically and emotionally than be away from the person they love; they forget about themselves and would go against all odds just to be with the one they love more. Preposterous as it may seem but they feel more miserable otherwise. I am sure that there are some who could relate to this. It is not easy to go against your will or desire; in most cases it has greater influence to a person’s choice of any course of action among the options before them. Let’s face it; part of human nature is inclining to what creates more pleasure in the heart than melancholic within.
But of course there are exceptions because there are those who are strong enough to walk away from their heart’s desire to choose the one who is perfect or right for them but know this, compelling yourself to falling in love with someone that only your mind says right is equally difficult with trying to forget someone you love so much but your mind says wrong because that someone can no longer be yours. It is difficult and it takes time. It is so hard to dictate one’s heart. Sometimes you are aware that you should be with the person who is right there with you now who have the better qualities and capabilities, yet you couldn’t find it in you to reciprocate the love offered or at least love the person as you should no matter how you force yourself to. The degree of difficulty on forcing yourself to love the person you don’t feel anything, on the contrary has the same degree of easiness in choosing the person you love much in spite of the knowledge that the person seem wrong for you. There are times that wondering about it makes you feel bad about yourself because opportunities like that have a shelf life and you can’t get yourself together to feel strong love for the desirable person who is just within reach for now. They say that, “whatever the mind conceives, the body can achieve” well I guess the heart is an exception. There is a difference between being with the person you really love and the one you want to love at least. Sad but true that we can’t choose who to feel true love with. We would be fortunate to find love with the right person for us, sadly others are not so fortunate and they find it hard to resist the call of their heart’s desire. Maybe indeed, “there is no such thing as mind over matters of the heart” because at the end of the day it is what gives the most joyful feeling that brightens anyone’s day.
- Lizzy Grace E. Johnson
LGJ, March 2011
How do you think others have derived the saying,
“love is blind” when the person concern
can make a rationale choice without compromise?
Compelling yourself to falling in love with someone
that only your mind says right is equally difficult with
trying to forget someone you love so much
but your mind says wrong because that someone
can no longer be yours.
Maybe indeed, “there is no such thing as mind over matters of the heart”
because at the end of the day
it is what gives the most joyful feeling that brightens anyone’s day.